By Dennis Franck
Answer: A Church of Any Size Can Minister to Single Adults in at Least a Few Ways
I believe that any church, no matter the size, can be aware of, accept, and address some of the needs of single adults. At the very least, a church of any size without a ministry to single adults should/can be:
- Acknowledging single adults in/through the teaching and preaching by including them in the messages and lessons. For example, “whether you are married or single, there is a place for you in our church.” And, “Jesus lived an effective life of ministry as a single adult.”
- Giving examples of effective single adults in scripture, (Jesus, Paul, John the Baptist, Mary, Martha, Anna, the Samaritan woman, Timothy, Titus, Mary Magdalene, Deborah, Hagar, Dinah, Miriam, Naomi, Vashti, and others.
- Providing respite, encouragement, support, material and financial help for single parents, their children and the widowed (see chapter four for ideas).
- Aware of other churches in the community which do have a ministry for single adults and encourage them to attend one of these groups for their emotional, mental, relational, physical and social needs. Many single adults would welcome a pastor’s recommendation to a church with a ministry for single adults and would return to their home church for meeting their spiritual needs.
When evaluating which approach to ministry your church might take, strongly consider utilizing the balanced approach. A total ministry could be planned initially, but built slowly in stages. Or, a church might regularly have only one type of event to meet each of the six dimensions of life. For example, one Bible study a week, one social activity a month, one seminar every three months, one community outreach every six months, and one retreat a year. In this way, a church would at least be minimally meeting some of the diverse needs of single adults.