Who’s that? There? Looking back at you from the mirror. Who do you think you are?
How you answer reveals mountains of information about the real you. Did you say you are tall, or ten pounds over-weight? Did you describe yourself by your professional title? Did you say you like to swim, or ski, or curl up with a good book and read? Sure – these are all manifestations, or characteristics, of your personality. But which is the real you?
Self-image is such an elusive animal. We wiggle and squirm around it and reword it and take courses to help discover it, and then we read books to evaluate it and psychology courses to modify it. But the bottom line boils down to this: You are unique – a specially created man or woman, created by God for a purpose that no one else on earth can fulfill. We’re told in Psalms 139 that God prescribed before we were conceived what our physical characteristics (or idiosyncrasies) would be. If there’s something about your appearance that you don’t like, what you’re really saying is that God goofed. (Unless you’re unhappy about being overweight. You know whose fault that is!)
The fact is, physical beauty is not related to inner peace and happiness. These come only when we conform to God’s inner ideal for us: the character of the Lord Jesus Christ.
If you are unhappy about yourself, I have good news and bad news for you. The good news? You are still on the potter’s wheel and your clay is still wet. God hasn’t given up on you yet! (That should make your day!) The bad news? It hurts sometimes. Imagine a lump of clay yelling “Ouch!” or “Hey! Cut that out!” or “Stop pinching me! ” Ridiculous. Yet that’s what we do. We decide we’ve had enough and we climb down off the wheel. We run around half finished, leaving muddy tracks everywhere we go. We compare ourselves to other, more “finished” pieces that are being used all around us - bowls, pitchers, pots – and we feel useless and imperfect. There’s only one cure: climb back onto the wheel and let the Master Potter have His way with your life. It you’re a Christian, you bear His name, and it’s His reputation at stake in your life – not yours. (Jeremiah 18: 1-6)
God loves you as a single. Jesus was single. He understands, because He experienced the loneliness and depression too. He was rejected by the ones closest to Him. He had no one to lean on either. And if He was a successful single, you can be, too! (Hebrews 4:4-16)