Denial - Denial is a built in mechanism that is a “safeguard”. It prevents us from dealing with our loss all at once. This could be referred to as the “shock stage” or “numb stage”. You try to deny or pretend this event is not happening.
Denial can take on a variety of forms such as:
Anger - This is where one decides that someone has to pay. There is a desire for revenge or to “get even”. The anger can be revealed in many ways.
Bargaining - This is where we make deals or use our brains to think of ways to “fix” things.
Depression - This is where we have decided it is a hopeless situation and feel there are no solutions. Life will never get any better. Sinking into such despair often leads to behavior such as: losing interest in life, lack of appetite or overeating, insomnia or sleeping too much, etc.
Acceptance - This is where we can say, “I don’t like what has happened. I wish things were different, but I am not going to let this ruin me. I am single, I am okay, and I am going on to new beginnings. God has great things for me.”
None of the stages are bad, as a matter of fact, you must experience each stage. You cannot go from denial to acceptance without experiencing the stages in the middle. However, work on not getting stuck in any stage, except acceptance. Your goal is to work through each stage to become whole, healthy and spiritually free.