Thou shalt not live in the past.
Thou shalt be responsible for thy present and not blame thy past.
Thou shalt not feel sorry for thyself indefinitely.
Thou shalt assume thy end of the blame for thy marriage dissolvement.
Thou shalt not try to reconcile thy past and reconstruct thy future by a quick new marriage.
Thou shalt not make thy children the victims of thy past marriage.
Thou shalt not spend all thy time trying to convince thy children how terrible and evil their departed parent is.
Thou shalt learn all thou can about being a one-parent family and get on with it.
Thou shalt ask others for help when thou needest it.
Thou shalt ask God for the wisdom to bury yesterday, create today and plan for tomorrow.