V-Day seems like an appropriate nickname for Valentine’s Day. Perhaps it’s the reference to D-Day. V-Day also feels like an invasion, with many commercials and stores reminding us that we “should” be in love. I dread Valentine’s Day, perhaps like many other single adults. It is a day that reminds me, in a very loud voice, that I am alone. I must admit, I have listened to that voice and been down many February 14ths in my life.
I have read many books and articles, and they all seem to say the same thing: you shouldn’t feel alone. I want to scream, “Don’t tell me how to feel!” I know God loves me and is always with me, and I am eternally grateful for my love relationship with my Savior. But human companionship is important. God designed us to need each other as representations of His love for us.
It’s okay to feel alone and to wish you were in a loving partnership. Feeling this way does not mean you are spiritually weak, and you don’t need to just “get over it.” You can be single and not love it. I make the best of it and enjoy many aspects and privileges, but I do want to get married and enjoy sharing my life with someone. God designed me this way and planted this desire in my heart, and I know that it is only a matter of time before it happens. I want to invest in someone else and share the journey. I understand marriage is imperfect and challenging, but it is something that I want and that I believe God for.
Until then, what can you do to stop dreading Valentine’s Day? Here are some things that have worked for me.
I’ve decided that I’m doing just fine. I’m not pathetic or spiritually inadequate; I’m just patiently waiting. As the Lord once reminded me; patience is not how long you wait, but the attitude in which you do it.
V-Day seems like an appropriate nickname for Valentine’s Day. Perhaps it’s the reference to D-Day. V-Day also feels like an invasion, with many commercials and stores reminding us that we “should” be in love. I dread Valentine’s Day, perhaps like many other single adults. It is a day that reminds me, in a very loud voice, that I am alone. I must admit, I have listened to that voice and been down many February 14ths in my life.
I have read many books and articles, and they all seem to say the same thing: you shouldn’t feel alone. I want to scream, “Don’t tell me how to feel!” I know God loves me and is always with me, and I am eternally grateful for my love relationship with my Savior. But human companionship is important. God designed us to need each other as representations of His love for us.
It’s okay to feel alone and to wish you were in a loving partnership. Feeling this way does not mean you are spiritually weak, and you don’t need to just “get over it.” You can be single and not love it. I make the best of it and enjoy many aspects and privileges, but I do want to get married and enjoy sharing my life with someone. God designed me this way and planted this desire in my heart, and I know that it is only a matter of time before it happens. I want to invest in someone else and share the journey. I understand marriage is imperfect and challenging, but it is something that I want and that I believe God for.
Until then, what can you do to stop dreading Valentine’s Day? Here are some things that have worked for me.
I’ve decided that I’m doing just fine. I’m not pathetic or spiritually inadequate; I’m just patiently waiting. As the Lord once reminded me; patience is not how long you wait, but the attitude in which you do it.
The purpose of Assemblies of God Single Adult Ministries is to help districts, churches, pastors and leaders build spiritually-strong single and single-again adults of all ages.